Are you looking for an awesome stay at home mom schedule that will actually make you sane… like really? Here are some ideas to make your everyday mom life an awesome stay at home mom schedule!
Before I became a stay-at-home mom, I had grand dreams! Baby sleeping through the night, home-based businesses, healthy meals, and a sick-to-your-gut-kind-of-happy marriage.
Six years, two babies, and four house relocations after, I still have….. grand dreams.
Please! Give me a break! Seriously, please.
Being a first-time mom opens you to the reality of raising a family. It all comes in various aspects. You may have realized that keeping the house clean with young kids is next to mission impossible. Or you may have realized that no matter what you do, some people will always have an opinion on how you raise your children or how you fold clothes.
Personally, I know better now. And the lessons came at a great price aka my sanity.
I’ve learned to live my life one day at a time.
I’ve learned to not stress the little things.
I’ve learned to stop trying to be a perfect mom.
I’ve learned to focus on the present which is the childhood of my kids.
Though it still pains me to see that streak of a mess on the kitchen countertops, so what? Will it be the end of the world? Is the mess and people’s opinion really worth your stress?
So to save my sanity everyday, I need to shift my focus.
I needed to change my negative thoughts.
I needed to be in charge of my own happiness.
I needed to stop what other people thinks or says.
I needed to make my everyday stay-at-home mom schedule a thriving one.
So first things first, I need to create a plan.
How to have a stay-at-home mom schedule that’ll save your sanity
Get a paper and a pen, and create your most awesome stay-at-home mom schedule yet!
7 AM: Decide what time you wake up everyday
If you make your children your own alarm clock, chances are you wake up as restless and irritated as they are. They wake up always needing something and that’s normal. They want their pacifier, they want their bottle of milk right away. Or they simply want you.
You will never have that window of a time to make your first coffee, or make some toast, or to simply breathe and look at the sun.
Whether you wake up one hour or five minutes earlier than your children, that extra early time will buy you a few moment of sanity.
8 AM: Plan your day. Use a planner
It is easy to have a mombrain every single day. It is easy to forget the next doctor appointment. It is easy to forget where you placed the last matching socks.
Just imagine this. You are holding (or juggling) a lot of balls in the air everyday. One of them will eventually fall off your grasp if you push your self too hard.
Write your appointments. Write your meals for the week. Write the list of groceries. Write your next time-off. Write it down.
It is very important to let your mind rest from trying to remembering a gazillion things to do. If you don’t, sooner or later it turns into worries and anxieties.
If you haven’t got a paper and pen yet, do it now!
9:00 AM Keep routines
Children thrives with routines. No more surprise with that. But so does grown-ups.
Whenever we know what is coming, it is easier to anticipate and prepare for the child’s next tantrum or your next episode of impatience. If you are going to a playgroup in an outdoor setting and you know your baby won’t like the sun, it is easier to prepare for some little remedies to make your baby comfortable. And probably, the next time will start to be bearable for him.
Even in everyday life, when children know that supper time is always preceded by homework, they know what to expect and the mother does not need to play a monologue of bargaining anymore.
Keep routines. Write them on the wall or fridge for everyone to see.
Make daily routines for your children’s activities.
- 9 AM Breakfast
- 10 AM Home Lessons
- 11 AM Park or playground
- 12 PM Lunch
- 1 PM Nap
- 2 PM Recreation
- 5 PM Home Lessons
- 7 PM Dinner
- 9 PM Bed time
Make weekly routines for your own tasks.
- Monday: Laundry
- Tuesday: Online Business
- Wednesday: Cleaning the garage and vehicles
- Thursday: Floors, upholsteries, etc.
- Friday: Meal Planning
Anytime o’clock: Encourage independent skills
Let the children independently play
watch TV. You need it. They need it. Everyone needs it.
Let go of that idea of a perfection that keeps you stressed.
Let go of that idea of a clean house that will never be.
Let go of that parenting style that goes against your guts.
Encourage children to make the best of their childhood by being just kids. Encourage them to explore their creative side. Encourage them to clean their own mess.
Encourage them to be independent and initiate things on their own like brushing their teeth before bedtime, making their own bed, and so on.
Don’t care o’clock: Let go of something
Whether you are a first-time mom or a veteran one, raising children is not a walk in the park at all. If you are looking for that perfect stay-at-home mom schedule that will self-clean the everyday mess in your house and on your mind, I’m afraid there is none.
But you can create one that works for you based on your children’s age and your own mindset! What are you willing to let go of and what are your non-negotiables?
Personally, I decided to let go of what other people think of me or my decisions. In the first place, these people who had a lot of opinion about my decisions as a mother are nowhere to be found when I had to go to work at 7 in the morning while my children are sick at home.
Always thinking of other people’s opinions negatively shaped my parenting decisions or how I cook my eggs in the morning. These people became the voice in my head. As a first time mom, I was not a confident person way back then so I allowed these elders’ wisdom to take hold of me.
Wisdom does not certainly come with age.
A stay-at-home mom will never run of things to do within the home.
Whether it is cooking yet another meal or educating your children with ABCs or chemistry, an effective stay-at-home mom schedule is one that makes the mom sane!